How to Start and Maintain a Good Relationship

May 16, 2016

 The key to a good relationship is trust. The definition of trust is “the firm belief in the reliability, truth, ability, or strength of someone or something.” I’m not a huge fan of wordy definitions though, so I want to explain that my definition of trust is being confident that the other person will do the right thing.


I have been best friends with someone since 7th grade, and these past 6 years with her have helped shape who I am as a person and I can’t thank her enough for that. Relationships are a key factor to keeping a healthy lifestyle and a happy soul. When I think of our relationship, I try hard to remember where it all started. To begin a good relationship, it’s really helpful to get to know them and their interests. I know we all hate those “get to know each other” games because they make everyone feel awkward, but we do them for a reason! They actually help! Sometimes meeting each other through a common interest such as sports or hobbies is a nice wall breaker. It’s so important to be honest about yourself too. On a scale of weird too cool, I’m about as weird as it gets. I take selfies with strangers, dress up as a cow in public and inchworm with my butt in the air in the middle of nordstroms. But hey, I’ll always be honest about it! Just know that there will always be people like you no matter what lifestyle that is, you just have to fish them out :) My best friend will do all of those funny/weird things with me, and that’s one of our key factors to our great relationship.


After you get to know a little bit about this person, going out and doing stuff together can help improve that relationship. I also want to put out there, not all relationships are going to be the kind you want to save. Sometimes you’ll find that the person isn’t trustworthy, or are going to be in too much conflict with you. But whatever it is, be honest about how the relationship is going. It’s good to go out with them and do activities together. Maybe that means going out for lunch, walking around a pumpkin patch together, going to the lake, or you could even shop for christmas gifts with them! Truthfully, the more time you spend together, the more you are going to love their presence and become closer with them.


At some point, you’ll look back to where your relationship started and you can see how much it has grown! The best part about having a great relationship, is how you can tell them things that you aren’t always comfortable telling other people. My best friend and I can tell each other anything in the world and it feels good to talk about it. We also understand each other's personality types in that sometimes we aren’t looking for advice, instead we just want someone to hear us and listen. Having a conversation about how they like to be talked to can also help improve this growing relationship. The best part is that I can always TRUST her! She has never let me down and I don’t think I have ever let her down either. Sometimes fighting is good too, but as long as you have the intentions of a good outcome and trying to be understanding of their point of view. It will all work out in the end.


Always try to check up with them and see how things are going, even when you can’t hang out with them. This shows how much you care and that you are there for them. Truthfully, I can breathe with ease everyday because of my friends and relationships. They mean everything to me and I know I can count on those around me to pick me up when I’m having a bad day.


Overall, friendships and relationships are such a blessing to have, so cherish them and work to keep them. Always reach out to new people because you never know how close you would be with them one day unless you try. I will always cherish my best friend and all of the close relationships that I have with people. They are the reason I keep going on in life and they have shaped me to be the person I am. Show them you care and make amazing, beautiful memories.  “100% of the shots you don’t take, don’t go in”.


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